Did you know that we all live behind GATEs? These GATEs of our own mind that we self impose on ourselves are supposedly a root cause of our unhappiness, and I have very good reason to believe it true.
GATE stands for:
- Action (or action tendencies)
And these 4 things usually lead to a destructive negative cycle. But they don’t have to!
We fall into these traps because society demands that we constantly have ambitions and goals that we’re working towards. But to what end, and to what aim? Maybe sometimes, all we need to do is just be content with where we are. To stop and smell the roses. To appreciate where we are on this journey called life and not think about the destination but to enjoy the ride.
For when we have these goals, then we start taking actions, but because of those actions, we generate thoughts which may be self-conscious or causing you to live too often in the past or the future, but never the present, and thus we develop emotions around those thoughts whether destructive or constructive, but we start falling into a never-ending cycle of accomplishing goal after goal and always striving for that one last thing that we have to get BEFORE we achieve happiness. Why don’t we just start CHOOSING happiness right now instead of always wanting that one more thing that we think will make us happy.
You have to step BEYOND the GATEs of your mind. Be that fly on the inside wall of your head, and just observe what comes up. What kind of demands we put on ourselves and stress we may cause due to the actions, thoughts, and emotions we have as a result of setting those goals and achieving them. Have we ever paused and just said, “Thank You”? for getting us there? And admiring that everything we are and have done is a result of just BEING first?
Let’s just start with existing and then we can grow ourselves from the world of BEING to the world of ENJOYING 🙂